Alisa: iâ€™m so afraid Iâ€™ll be triggered during sex so I often go months without being able to have sex because my PTSD is shitty and. After which Iâ€™ll declare to you personally that i believe our company is never ever sex once again. Ever feel afraid or frustrated so itâ€™s true?
Charlie: i usually reassure you that its incorrect it to not be true because iâ€™ve known. Now it is a fact that on event, possibly after a failed effort to begin one thing or perhaps a stretch that is really long of, i will feel a little frustrated. But because you may feel guilty or depressed that things arenâ€™t changing while I may feel this, I know that as the survivor, this experience can be extremely more anxiety-ridden and hurtful for you. After which all of it comes home to understanding that it is critical that you donâ€™t feel broken or ashamed or weak that you need my support. Since you arenâ€™t. This isn’t one thing you asked for, it’s a burden that has been forced upon you and you need to grapple with.
Guidance for any other lovers in a relationship with a survivor with PTSD:
Alisa: Now being in a sexual relationship during my healing process with me for 3+ years what would you tell younger Charlie about what to expect in being in a relationship with me? Continue reading There might be amounts of time where we must wait, but we inevitably will go back to it as well as the quality will not allow up.